An Open Letter To The Girl Who Went From “Feel The Bern” To “MAGA”

Dear Jessica Dobrinsky,

First, let me introduce myself. My name is Becca Rose and I too want America to be great. Like any of us, I don’t fit into a single box. I am a feminist, a Sanders supporter, a college student, a liberal, a hard worker, an independent mind, and a critical thinker. I also love “One Call Away” by Charlie Puth, and girl, if you wanna be swept off your feet by a nice, cute boy, then hell yeah I do too.

Which leads me to my first point: Feminism is intersectional, inclusive, and empowering. Feminism is never about tearing people down. I’m sorry that your experience as a feminist pushed you away from the movement because I believe that the Twitter trolls you encountered are NOT representative of the movement. Feminism is about eradicating the stigma surrounding gender roles, but it’s not about forcing people to abandon them all together. For some people, that’s where they’re comfortable; That’s where they thrive. To the men who want to be the hero and to the women who want to be romanced, hell yah I hope it happens for you! And to the men who don’t subscribe to what is stereotypically “masculine” and to the women who want to be their own hero, hell yah you do your thing! Feminism is all about giving men and women options, the freedom to choose; to be who they are without having to worry about what the world is telling them to do or be. Unfortunately, feminism is flawed because we as humans are flawed. (Shameless plug for Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay.) There will be people who misinterpret the movement, who redefine it, who misrepresent it, but please don’t let those people deter you from a movement that is fighting for equality for both women AND men on both the Left and the Right. I am a feminist, and I support and respect you. Read More

But who cares? No big deal, I want more.

I recently read this article titled “Three Ways To Guard The Single Women In Your Life.” The article’s premise surrounds things that I, as the perpetually single friend, hear all the time – and I’m damn tired of hearing them. The writing impacted me so strongly because it’s faith based, but I think it’s relevant for all single women so I just want to hit home on the article’s most secular point.

Stop telling young women, “You just haven’t met the right guy yet.”
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